There is nothing more heartbreaking than seeing the person you love and care about go down a dark spiral and having absolutely no idea what to do to get them out of it. Alcoholism can strike any type of social class, race, gender and past family history. There are a number of different warning signs that can let you know that alcoholism has become a serious problem for your loved one. Usually, it’s easier for the outsiders to pick up on the signs compared to the one who is actively living with addiction. In all serious situations, please consult a professional. However, if you’re still unsure on what some of the early signs are of alcoholism, please read on.
Lying About How Much You’re Drinking
Lying about almost anything is usually a clear sign that you are ashamed of something and you feel the need to hide it. You shouldn’t judge your loved one if they’re having a few drinks with a couple of friends on the weekend or pouring a glass of wine with dinner every now and then, but, if this becomes a daily routines and you can tell they are beginning to feel uncomfortable to admit how much they’ve actually drunk then you have a problem on your hand. Alcoholism can creep up on people quicker than they know it themselves but usually, there’s a big red flag in the air if they aren’t admitting how much they’ve actually had to drink or play the idea down when you question them. If they didn’t see what was wrong with it, they wouldn’t need to hide it.
It is also important to note that this also includes those who drink in secret when no one is around or sneak out of the house to drink more. Finding bottles of alcohol in the car, at work, or notice that liquor in the household has been replaced with water so no one in the home notices is a clear warning sign that you need to seek treatment for your loved one.
Losing Your Job
If your special someone feels the need to drink on the job or before work their drinking has hit a crisis point. This is a clear sign that their drinking has turned into addictive behavior because they are now struggling to separate between normal daily realities of their lives, such as going to work. There are things you can do to encourage your loved one through this rough patch in their life. What might be obvious is to seek out professional help and look for a recovery program in your area. Recovery programs are designed to help you through the addiction process but also to provide the tools necessary to go back out into society and adapt back to normality, such as getting reintroduced back into the workforce and working on their spiritual growth and what they want to do in their life, which could be demonstrated through working on their resume. There is life still after losing your job to alcoholism.
They’ve Been Affected Legally By Their Addiction
Alcoholism is usually a disease lived out in secret, like most family issues they usually take place behind closed doors despite the brave face they put on for the world. At times, some people who drink can sometimes engage in behaviors that can be brought out into the public sphere. These types of behaviors can sometimes be related to breaking specific laws such as being arrested while under the influence and causing harm while being drunk. When the police officers get involved this can cause a whole new series of troubles and stress onto the individual and their families. If arrested, the amount of shame that it can bring is huge which is why it’s important that as their loved one you are there to support them and bring them out of the hole they have dug themselves into instead of humiliating them even further. By shaming them, it will only drive them back to drink if they can’t feel that support network around them. It can be a scary time, but with help and patience, families can emerge from these challenges and eventually the time will come when that once fragile family can begin to heal again.
Switching Personalities While Under The Influence
The old saying “drown your sorrows” by drinking alcohol comes from the fact that many people drink to make their feelings disappear. Drinking can provide a temporary escape from reality but the longer the drinking goes on the more feelings of depression can come out when you’re drinking and also while you’re sober. For people who have trait anger issues and low executive functions, they run the huge risk of becoming extremely aggressive while drinking. Anger and alcohol do not go hand in hand. It is almost like that person switches into a different persona.
Alcohol reduces your ability to evaluate the intentions behind the actions of people around you. As an example, if you leave a football game after having a few beers and your team lost and someone accidentally knocked you wearing the colours of the opposition team, if sober, you might take a second to understand that the knock was just an accident but, if drunk, your perspective changes and they might see the action as intentional and then they lose all sense of reasoning which could result in a physical fight. This type of behavior is dangerous and needs to be controlled by limiting the amount of alcohol consumed or seeking out help.
Alcohol is a depressant, which means that it disrupts the chemical balance in our brains, our thoughts feeling and actions and sometimes our long-term mental health. If your loved one is trying to push you away rather than let you in, speak to a professional and organize an intervention. The most important thing that you can do is to be there for them through thick and thin instead of blaming them for their wrongs. Educate yourself on alcoholism and how it is a disease. Education is the most important tool that we can have to fix our cherished ones and only then will we see the light at the end of the tunnel. Is there a warning sign that has affected your personal life that you would like to share to our readers to raise awareness? Please leave a comment below, we’d love to hear it.